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Aarav, 13:
“My mother scolds me about everything. I think I feel tired! I know I am not right and I make mistakes. I am not great in studies, and I spend 3-4 hours to play mobile games after school. But it is not that I do not want to do well in life-I just struggle to focus and motivate.
Expert Answer:
Dear Aarav, do you know what is the best thing about you? You recognize what is right and wrong, and this is the first step towards success.
It is important to understand that parents are the only people in the world who love you more than your life. Not everyone expresses love in the same way. Your mother cannot openly show her love, but she cares for you. Have you ever wondered why she scolds you? This is because she wants you to perform best. When she asks you to reduce your screen time, it’s not to make you sad – this is because she believes that it will help you focus on your future.
Aarav, these years of your life will shape your future. Will it be very difficult to dedicate a few hours to self-improvement? Remember, the more a diamond is cut and polished, the more shining. Here is a simple plan to follow for two weeks – like me, you will see a difference in yourself and your parents’ behavior:
- Study four hours daily for 21 days.
- Immediately she asked her mother without delay.
- Even if you feel the urge to argue.
- For every hour of study, reward yourself with 15 minutes of game time.
- Eat a bowl of fruits mixed daily to help balance the mood.
- Get at least eight hours of sleep every night.
Try it for 21 days and write back to us about your experience. You may be surprised at positive changes!
