Danish Children are the happiest in the world, and parenting experts believe that they know the secret.
According to Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD), Denmark ranks continuously in the top three most happy countries. It is a pleasure, experts suggests, from the unique Danish perspective to raise children.
Jessica Jole Alexander, a Danish parenting specialist, connects Denmark’s four-decade rule to her different child-rearing practices as a happy leader. These methods, she argues, promotes the feeling of goodness allowing the Danish society.
“It must be parenting,” she explains. “Happy children grow up to be happy adults who raise happy children, and this is a cycle that simply repeats themselves.”
She says that when she first went to Denmark, she was killed by how she treats Danish children. “The children all treated all such calm, materials, respectable and well. There was almost no shout and the parents looked really joyful. Childhood simplicity was given importance and there was a kind of valuable that I had never seen before.”
Now a mother-in-two who lives in Denmark with her Danish husband, Alexander says that the way Danes raised her children, changed her so much as a parent that she wanted to tell others about it. So he wrote The Danish Way of Parenting, which is published in more than 30 countries, and now a follow-up guide, The Danish He has written with his friend Camila Semlov Anderson, a Danish family doctor every day.
The new book describes the Danish parenting model in more detail, explaining how Danes work to their children, cook together and settled in routine while sleeping, as well as find out how they behave with child meltdown and teenage struggles.
Alexander said, “From morning to meal time, conflict is a parenting problem worldwide.” “Meltdown doesn’t know any limit – or they do? How the happiest people in the world avoid struggle in daily life?”
Alexander uses six principles that create abbreviated parents, which they identified in their first book as being in the heart of Danish Child-Rering, to explain how parents should deal with a denish manner with conflict and recession.
game: It is necessary for development and good
Veracity: Foster Trust and a ‘Inner Compass’
Resurrection: Helps children deal with failures and see a bright side
empathy: Allows us to work with kindness towards others
No ultimatum: No power struggle or outrage
Together: One way to celebrate family time, on special occasions and every day
And here is told how to use principles to deal with family conflict and meltdown …
game
Alexander suggests that parents try not to see everyday activities as obstacles to spend time together, but as opportunities. She says Research Young children like to help, and advise: “Even if it slows you, consider now that you are making a accessory for life, later with low struggle.
“So if you have a ‘two-do’ list, then see to include your children in the ‘Two-B’ list-how we want to feel with our children-instead. Remember that the work is playing for young children, and they like to live with you. It is important, not a perfection, not perfection.”
Veracity
Instead of full parents, children need emotionally honest people, emphasizing Alexander. She says that parents should often check in with themselves and their child, and ask if you can be completely or semi-current. “If you are spending a hard day, it’s okay to accept it,” she says. “Include yourself in communication as a real person, not as the role of a parent. So ‘instead of mummy you go to bed now,’ Try ‘I have work to finish tonight but you can choose a story’.
“Children who feel seriously – in our words, in vowels and actions – will take themselves seriously.”
Condemn
If you see your child as annoying, aggressive or bad, you will react in this way, increasing the strength conflicts, Alexander says, who states that Danes try to avoid giving children a negative label because they can become a self-confidence. For example, the ‘terrible Twos’ is called the ‘cellvstidingdasalder’ or the age of freedom, “she says.” The eccentricity of a child is common, healthy and even welcomed – her purpose is to give them more autonomy rather than fighting. “
For example, she states that young children in supermarkets are allowed to move around their own mini-trolleys, help take items from the shelf or put grocery items on the belt. “Instead of seeing them as an obstacle, see them as an assistant,” she advises. “Note what they can do, rather than what they cannot do, and there will be very little struggle.”
empathy
Alexander says that the more you see and understand the reason behind your child’s behavior, the less struggle will be, it indicates that there are always good reasons for the child’s feelings. Co-writer Anderson explains: “We believe that children have the right to their feelings. So if a child says’ I am not hungry ‘, we will not say’ yes you are!”
So when parents can decide when and what the family eats, they should allow their child to decide how much they eat, Alexander is called. “Danish method does not mean to be permissible and no limitations – not,” she insists. “This means that children always have the right to their feelings, senses and needs within a structure. We can help them develop sympathy by assuming how they feel.”
No ultimatum
studies Clearly show the children of families who rule with respect, they are more likely to be influenced by their parents, not as teenagers, as teenagers, Alexander says, who suggests that the parents should compromise with their children, rather than exclude orders. “These are extremely popular in Denmark,” she explains, “because children feel part of the scheme. Whether it is work, bedtimes or scrantim, children say and this is a more effective way to promote responsibility for a long time.”
She says that if an agreement is broken, the parents should try to remain calm and “get curious, not fierce”. She insists: “We cannot expect our children to remain calm if we cannot.
Solidarity and hij
Hygge is essentially the meaning of ‘cosiness’, but Alexander says that you can imagine it as a psychological space that you enter with your family where you complain your stress, negativity and outside. She says that there is a great way to stop the hij meltdown, and it can be a state of mind while not having stress about being present and stress about dirt, or help (instead of ordering) performs your teenage dishes and enjoys simple conversations.
She says: “Sometimes, just sitting on a nature walk can calm down a child to see the bug together and bring heavy relationship. Many Danish schools regularly get children out. When you actively focus on glimals-we love about our children-instead of those things that bother us, it makes a tremendous difference in a day.”
